There is a real misunderstanding in today’s society of what a stay-at-home-mom does. 50 or 60 years ago we were doted on as the nurturers of our family’s. Today, sadly, we are seen as bon-bon eating, soap opera watching, Words With Friends playing couch potatoes.
Even if your friends and family don’t come right out and say it, they’re still thinking it. Every SAHM has gotten the look. It’s somewhat a cross between jealousy, envy, and disgust. It’s the “oh, that must be nice” look.
But have they EVER spent an entire week alone with a baby, or worse A TODDLER? Doubtful. The last thing on my mind during the day are bon-bon’s. Heck, some days I don’t eat ANYTHING until my tot goes to bed. And soap operas? Does Blue’s Clues count? I don’t have the chance to catch anything un-animated from 7a-7p.
I think college educated SAHM’s have it worse than any other. There is an expectation for us to do great things with our costly degree’s…to change the world, AND the diapers.
I’m a SAHM 50% by choice and 50% by circumstance. Graduating from graduate school in a down economy IS NO JOKE. So, until someone wants to pay me enough to cover the cost of an additional car, daily transportation expenses, and child care, I’ll continue to call my tot “my career”.
And, just as I have with every other position I’ve ever held, I will continue to give him 100% EVERY DAY. I will plan ahead. I will be prepared. I will focus on the task at hand. I will go in early. I will stay late. I will cater to the unreasonable requests of my boss. I will work through lunch, and sometimes dinner. I will be a team player. I will devote myself to the company. I will NEVER forget who’s in charge.
Because I may not be “working for a living”, but I’m certainly working for a life…my son’s.